Why is it that we always assume people are judging us? As if people really think that much about us outside of any day to day conversation we may have had with them. We have a growing epidemic in our society that is so prideful that we (falsely) criticize others for “judging” us when truly, it is our heart being convicted by the truth they have shared.
Maybe, instead of judging the hearts of others we should take a long, deep look into our own hearts and determine if the uncomfortable feeling we have is truly because someone has made a wrongful assumption about our character, or if it is because we know we have made some sort of “mistake” but are too prideful to own it.
Whatever one’s opinion on the subject, it is worth the self-evaluation to determine if our anger or hurt stems from a friend who as spoken truth into our area of growth. Proverbs 27:6 tells us “Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses.”
On the other hand, as a friend who was been on the receiving end of some just criticism, we should be careful that the words we speak are bathed in grace. As my pastor once said, “Truth without grace is mean. Grace without truth is meaningless. Truth with grace is medicine.”
It is never easy to hear that our inadequacies are obvious to other people. If we are wise, we will consider the words from those that have proven themselves worthy of their role in our life. (Proverbs 28:17 – As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.) If we are true friends, we are considerate of the feelings of others and offer instruction out of love and aide. Is this not the whole basis for the church? To spur each other on in love to pursue what is good, righteous, and life giving? Let us all, then, be devoted to loving others and loving truth.